Shianling Weeks

My Work

The decision to become a parent is one of the most impactful choices we make in our lives. You deserve support and care during this transition! I work with prospective parents and new mothers, from the decision whether or not to have a baby, through the ups-and-downs of pregnancy, and the adjustments to come afterwards. If infertility is part of your story, I offer non-judgmental support through the stress, fear, and disappointment that fertility treatment can entail. I also work with clients experiencing grief around miscarriage and pregnancy loss. 

In addition to my work with perinatal mental health, I offer therapy for anxiety, burnout, depression, and relationship issues for individuals and couples. My clients are often smart, driven people who need help taking a step back and reconnecting to their inner wisdom in the face of a lot of “shoulds”. I have a soft spot for working with creatives, and love working with women of color, Asian American/Pacific Islanders (AAPI), and multicultural people.

You may be stuck at the moment, but you’re not alone. As your therapist, I’m here to help you reach for a life that feels more connected, meaningful, and satisfying—whatever that looks like for you. I believe in offering therapy that’s supported by the best available research, and delivered in a tailored, inclusive, and warm way. I know that change isn’t easy, and I appreciate you taking the risk to try something new. 

If it sounds like I might be able to help you reach your goals, I invite you reach out and schedule a free consultation! 

Photo San Francisco Psychologist Dr. Shianling Weeks, an Asian American woman with shoulder length black hair and an ochre sweater.

My Story

My path to being a psychologist was windy. As a shy and highly emotionally sensitive kid, I would often escape from my surroundings when they were painful by diving into books. I was always fascinated by other peoples’ inner lives, and reading and imagining opened worlds to me. I wanted to help others, knowing the pain I felt when I was lonely and unseen. My parents, as immigrants, did not understand or relate to the ways I felt stuck between two worlds as a Chinese American, and were not available to help me with strong and painful emotions.

I struggled with depression from my teen years, without seeking help until my 20s due to the stigma against mental illness within my culture and family. I would often hear “fā fēng” spat by my parents about people who disgusted them. It was a shameful state, meaning “crazy,” but also sounding like “becoming wind”. I felt like wind, dissolving into nothing, unseen. I actively avoided seeking treatment despite good friends prompting me. My mother, concerned about how much I was suffering, took me to a fortuneteller—comforting for some, but not helpful for me. 

I attended business school and studied economics to appease my parents, but eventually realized that living my parents’ dream was not sustainable. I decided to pursue psychology, bringing together my interest in other peoples’ experiences nurtured from early childhood, my strong desire to help others while continuously learning, helping others make the lives they want and to suffer less, particularly AAPI people who may have hesitations about seeking treatment.

Today, I have two young kids and have grown in my understanding of myself and others as I continue to evolve in my role as a mother. They bring me so much joy. They also bring challenges of exhaustion, boredom, and a continued practice of acceptance and compassion toward myself when I don’t live up to the multiple ideals of parenting floating around in my head.

I love family time, movies/tv (especially fantasy, comedy, dystopian future, crime and Marvel stuff), growing interesting plants, crafting, and cooking. I’m from NJ/NY and trying to fulfill my California fantasy of having a lemon tree outside my window, sparked in the 90s by watching Cher pluck a lemon from inside the house in Clueless. I’m starting out with trying to get the potted lemons to actually fruit…